I also discovered in my journey as a coach that it takes practice to ‘be a coach’. Being a coach is a special privilege, one not to be taken lightly because in many ways you spend time with people who are asking the types of questions raised in this Blog. A good friend of mine sent me a quote which has also really stayed with me.
Hilary Cochrane and Trudi Newton’s book Supervision and Coaching – “For it to truly work both parties need to be willing to be vulnerable – to not know, to be confused or lost – whilst on the journey to clarity and progress”.
This is not only true of coaching, it is true of life and having a trusted companion to support you through this, be it God as in the case of Amanda Khozi Mukwashi or a spouse, a trusted friend, coach or mentor, remember we are all – only human – and that makes us special. The organisations that we work in and the people we surround ourselves with in life are also special. So let’s try to be kind and loving to each other and ourselves all of the time – and make that part of what we stand for. Why? Because it is this that will bring about the changes we so need to sustain our future and rid us of Imposter Syndrome for good. Why? Because for those who strive to know themselves authentically – and who recognise that even at our death we are unlikely to be the finished article anyway, and neither will the people we love and respect – it’s not important – we are who we are, when and where we are – that’s what we have to deal with at any point in time – having solid foundations just might make this a bit easier when the time comes to confront that.
If you get the chance listen to Amanda Khozi Mukwashi, I’d recommend it. Then reflect on this blog and maybe other areas of your life and work.
